Sometimes I feel a little lost for things to do or lacking purpose. Don’t get me wrong, I have lots of things in my life that give me purpose. I have a wonderful partner, a (mostly) enjoyable job, good friends and a nice home. These are things I have lacked in in my earlier years and so, they do give me a sense of purpose. But it feels like I am lacking purpose in the smaller things in life.
I don’t feel like a have a ‘thing’. You know how people have ‘things’ that they do, or are into or interested in. I don’t feel like I have that. There are things I enjoy and I like doing like gardening or reading or playing PlayStation… But they don’t really give me a sense of purpose or much achievement.
When I was younger I had a few things that were really important to me as person.
Music. I was massively into listening to new bands and going to gigs. I still enjoy it now but it isn’t a big part of me like it used to be.
Sport. I loved playing football and hockey but when I hit university I moved on from it, in part due to the massive drinking culture with sports societies.
Socialising with people. When I was a teenager and in my early adult years I had a fair few people who I got on with very well and would call friends. We would spend time together, go places and generally have a lot of fun. As I’ve grown up friends have moved away, grown up and been distracted by life (myself included) and so my pool of friends is very small. Not that that is problem, but it is a difference.
I go through these phases of really wanting to focus in on something or learn about something. My last blog post was about a podcast I’ve been listening to about Greek Mythology, I am still listening to it but find myself not being as connected to it as I was. I started blogging because I wanted it to be more of a thing in my life yet I really struggle to keep on top of it or have the motivation to write. I was really into swimming for a while and then life got busy and I was too lazy to build it into my routine again. All of these things I been trying tend to fall by the wayside. It is so frustrating and I only have myself to blame.
Basically, I feel like a very dull person who does not have much interesting to say or give to others because I don’t have a ‘thing’.
I think I really need to push myself to be motivated to try new things and meet new people but it’s scary and different and requires more of a drive than I have. I wish I was more like the younger me. The more carefree me. I guess this is what happens with growing up? Maybe it is that I am ready for a next stage in my life, whatever that might be. Who knows?